I was married 18 years to my former husband Patrick a 100% black Irish type personality.. and had an epiphany while he was biking around Ireland on a biking land cruise for three weeks with a buddy.. from work....the kids and I were home.. and it was like that a lot as he was a Tri-Athelete and we were not..=shrug..
..as my Momma would later come to say..in my support..:lol.. he was gone about one week TOO long.. the first week I noticed how much calmer and relaxed my kids were..towards the second week I noticed how much slower,and calmer I was.. about the end of the 3rd week. I totally realised what I had been dealing with, and how it affected my kids, and how we interacted.... Ex-husband is type A personality with an internal temper.. the house had to be CONSTANTLY IMMACULATE.. and if not WHY NOT??>. etc etc..if I had extra pounds on it was like when are you going to take them off..etc etc..I "only" worked part-time , so it was not like I had a *real job* and was bringing in a "real income" yada yada yada,
well to be concise after he returned I was DONE...as in you are OUTTA here fella.. and GOODBYE..
and true to be uncool..turns out Cynthia's best friends *THE twins* Dad Mark, and I had known wach other casually for 8 years..one of those yeah I'll bring them to the dance, if you'll pick them up etc, etc.. he'd been a single parent divorced Dad for 10 years..
well he found out through the kids grapevine I was divorcing..and he had no current girlfriend
and asked me out as he figured I was way too cute,and cooked,baked cleaned, worked,taught catechism at the church, was on the PTO at school , on the Board at the American Legion..etc..etc to be as he put it "on the shelf" very long..( it filled a million empty hours of husband off doing his sports things!!..)
I was simply STUNNED.. I had no idea he even knew I existed other than as "Cynthia's Momma"..he said I'd always admired you but you were married and that's a HUGE NONO..
so we went out om my Late Grampa's anniversary of being gone ( 6-6-66) 6-6-97.. and been together ever since..married 10 years this Fall..and I would not take Powerball for him.. he was SO worth the wait.Tripping over him was the best thing in my life after my kids!!..

..Joanne